The world changes all around us. Seasons change, people change; it is an inevitable part of life.
This summer has been very busy for my family…we are going through many changes personally and professionally.
Everyone deals with change differently. Some embrace it and desire it, others hate change.
Is it a good thing or a bad thing…this change?
My dictionary defines change this way: To cause to be different; alter…another word used in another part of the definition is to transform.
I like the word transform when speaking of change. To me, you are either changing or you are dying. Hopefully one changes in a positive manner, i.e. improves themselves.
I think the fear of the unknown is why people do not like change. The unfamiliar is too often uncomfortable. This is until we get familiar or comfortable with the new situation, then everything is ok again. I think it tends to be this learning or adjusting process where the problem lies with change.
As I discuss in my book, Hip To Be Fit, a lot of our values are learned at an early age from parents and friends. We have thoughts engrained that are hard to “let go.”
To think differently would mean we would have to change and that would be uncomfortable. We would have to think and reason outside of what we have been taught and that would take some work…maybe even a little research.
It would be more comfortable just to let someone else tell us how to think and then we would have less to worry about…less responsibility.
There is a wealth of sources for information these days and everywhere you look ( including on blogs) you can find an opinion for yourself on just about any and every topic. It is easy to let someone influence your thinking and opinions.
When I first started college I allowed others opinions (professors, other students) to influence my thinking. My confidence was low as a young man in a new environment.
It was very troubling and uncomfortable.
As soon as I became more comfortable with being uncomfortable, things began to change. I realized my thoughts were my own and that was ok…even if they were different.
I stopped fearing failure. I began looking at “failures” as learning experiences and moved forward with more confidence. I still try and do this today. I talk about it often with my own children.
It is a process. This process involves change.
And I like it.
Whether it is a job, a relationship, an exercise /weight loss program or a political viewpoint; search out a different way of doing or looking at it today.
If you want different (or better) results, change your stimulus (or thoughts).
I will leave you with four points my mentors have taught me in the past that have made a huge difference in my life.
1. Always ask questions.
2. Never be afraid to fail.
3. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable
And last but possibly most important, and, by the way, involves the first 3…
4. Look for ways to improve.
(This involves change!)
Thanks for Playing!
John
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